Ladies- Be Confident!

Confidence is a key component of my teaching philosophy. Don’t ask me why, but I have always been a very confident person. People could say mean things to me and I didn’t care; I rarely feel self conscious. I am very comfortable with who I am and people can take it or leave it.

But I am a rarity among the female population and as a future teacher I hope to influence the next generation of women. Particularly when it comes to our confidence in our bodies and athletic abilities.

In my Education Social Context class earlier this semester we analyzed different commercials and the messaging behind them. We watched a man’s athletic clothing company commercial where the men played as a team and defeated demons in a bad ass way. We compared that to another commercial by the same clothing company for women. In this commercial we heard the thoughts of women in the gym as they compared themselves to other women, told themselves they couldn’t do it, and generally gave off anxiety about being in the gym and working out alone.

The “inspirational” part came at the end when the woman completed her workout and thought “Wow! I did it!”

I was horrified! The fact that it reinforced serotypes about women judging each other in the gym, I hated how the message was “Surprise! You can workout if you put your mind to it.” I very strongly gave my thoughts on it and waited for my fellow female physical educators to also chime in. But instead of being annoyed by the message,  some of them talked about how they identified with the characters. Many said they thought the women were echoing the very thoughts they had when they went to the gym and my heart strings tugged.

Why?!?! Ladies- why are we intimidated by the gym and by each other? Why do we constantly compare to others?

I look at other women as potential friends and never compare myself to them. Everyone is different!

This is an issue we need to address and something I need to help little girls work on in my future career as a PE teacher. But how do I teach confidence when I’ve never had to work on it?

My mantra has always been “I’m Rachel Motherf***ing Tynan! (now Richards)” I always told myself that no one could hold me down, and that I could do anything I put my mind to it and worked hard enough.

Now I am in the classroom and I see some girls that need a shot of confidence in themselves and their abilities.

What are some tips and tricks YOU do to feel great about yourself?

How do you walk into the gym and not worry if people are judging you?

How do you stop  from comparing yourself to other people?

4 Comments

  • Kris @ Canadian Girl Runs April 12, 2017 at 8:14 am

    I think role modelling it is going to be one of the best things you can do. When I see other women being confident and just badass mother-effing all stars, I think, “I need to be more like HER!”

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    • Rachel April 13, 2017 at 6:09 am

      I definitely hope I can serve as a role model for the girls I will teach and coach throughout my career!

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  • Janine Horsley April 18, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    Hi Rachel – I’m with you and beyond love this post. Young girls need to rock their confidence!

    Hopefully my answers are helpful 🙂

    What are some tips and tricks YOU do to feel great about yourself?
    I make a list of 3 things I’m grateful for each day before going to bed. There’s always something!

    How do you walk into the gym and not worry if people are judging you?
    Everybody starts somewhere, always tell yourself that
    you’re still laping everbody sitting on their couch AND that you’d feel worse if you hadn’t come.

    How do you stop from comparing yourself to other people?
    By reminding myself that everybody starts with different circumstances!

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    • Rachel April 19, 2017 at 10:43 am

      Hi Janine- GREAT answers! I agree that we have to remind ourselves that everyone is different and comparisons are useless. Thanks for the tips!

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